The Danger of Sugar Coating

How often do you see something and want to unsee it? Denial is nice, sometimes an important defense. When denial is used too often we trip into what is known as sugar coating, or lying to ourselves. In lying to ourselves we can do this awful thing of choosing connection over protection. We do it if we have mean family members, the daydream they will be kind one day is a daydream that can put yourself in danger of wasting your time trying to change people who are simply mean, sometimes ruthless.

Protect yourself. As painful as it is to know something about someone, what is more painful is to continue to nose dive into wasting your time, giving to people who can not give back. You only have so many moments of time, do not waste them chasing a delusion. And be gentle with yourself, if you need to chase the delusion accept that and then place an end date on the chasing of the pot at the end of the infamous rainbow. You are the pot of gold at the end of your rainbow. In the end, we save ourselves via friendships, community, strong partners, and meaning centered lives.