The key is understanding that mental health is being able to experience, not just tolerate, but experience a wide range of emotion. Why negative emotions are so important…
By experiencing emotions as waves without judgement of the emotion itself, we have access to information, really important information. Without this information from “negative” emotions, we would not be able to mobilize and protect ourselves, or mobilize and make major changes in our lives that are crucial for our adult development.
Listen to that heart beat inside you that says no, and say no, not yes, when you mean no.
Listen to that anger inside when you need to protect a vulnerable person whether it be an elderly person or young child, or yourself. Without that anger, without that irritation, then how could you fully protect someone you love, o mores, how could you pursue fulfillment for yourself?
I love this article, I love this quote from the article:
Positive thoughts and emotions can, of course, benefit mental health. Hedonic theories define well-being as the presence of positive emotion, the relative absence of negative emotion and a sense of life satisfaction. Taken to an extreme, however, that definition is not congruent with the messiness of real life.
Life is messy, it is not always zen. The writer explores the guilt that so many people feel when they feel angry, or uncomfortable or irritated.
When we push away really important emotions,
We lose information. Information regarding a situation, or a relationship.
Once we push the emotion away, we have two options:
- To numb the emotion away and then anxiety comes in.
- To drug the emotion away, and then the anxiety comes in.
- It is so important to listen and stay attentive to both the good and awfully horrible emotions that we feel. When we feel happy, it is important to ask, what am I doing here that makes this so right? When we feel unhappy and overwhelmed, we must ask ourselves, what information is here? Both “positive” and “negative” emotions hold invaluable information, when we feel guilty regarding this information, we shut down a lot of important signals. And do not be your own dentist, if you need to look into those emotions and they feel more like tidal waves, feel free to learn more about my approach and what I offer or get help via whatever avenue feels the most grounding.
When nothing is going right, go left. Anonymous-